I used to be married to a woman. Before that I had had a relationship with a man. I then had another relationship with a woman, and I since then have had relationships with men. I still would define myself as bisexual partly because that’s how I feel but also because I think it’s important to — I think sexuality in this country especially is seen as a very black and white thing, and I think we should encourage the gray. You know?
I don’t go around in my life thinking, “Oh, my God, I’m going to have to have sex with a woman soon because I said I was bisexual!” … It’s like saying you’re straight or you’re gay — it’s just what you are, and whatever you’re doing in your life it runs obviously parallel, but it’s kind of secondary to how you are inside. That’s how I’ve always felt, and I still do, even though I’m very happily married to a really amazing man and wish to be so for the rest of my life.
- there is nothing wrong with going through phases while you try and figure out who you are
- there is nothing wrong with being confused about who you are. at any point in your life
- there is nothing wrong with saying you were x identity a year ago and today saying you are something else.
it does not mean you lied
it does not mean you were doing it to be trendy
it means you changed
thats what people do over time: they change
and that’s ok